The process of dying and illnesses has many parts to it and how it's seen differently no matter where you go. The book i read My Brother by Jamaica Kincaid discussed the issues of her brother having AIDS and nobody caring about you and not getting the proper service/care that you need to stay well coming from the island of Antigua. Especially how she didn't know how to cope with her feelings. In the book it said "My friend Bud said to me her found it strange the way people in Antigua regard illness, that when a person is ill no one mentions it, no one pays a visit; but if the person should die, there is a big outpouring of people at the funeral"(page 146). Nobody there understand how to deal with people with AIDS who are dying and believe they should stick to themselves because they are healthy. Jamaica Kincaid didn't know whether to be sympathetic to the whole situation or move on with her life. Some people have resistance to dying people while other are the exact opposite.
We had a guest speaker who talked about her husband who passed away, the struggles that she had and different aspects that she chose to cope with everything that was going on. Beth dealt with her husband's terminal illness by always being right by his side no matter what. It didn't matter the place or time. She said that they didn't have to be talking, that she could be silent with him and that's all that matter. Just the fact that she was in his presence is what made their relationship very special. Her husband wasn't being isolated but instead rewarded with the other people's company such as his wife and family.
When people have become terminal sick they become isolated from the world and other people. In the documentary, Near Death the doctors and the nurses to do not have any physical or emotional attachment to the patients just like in the book "My Brother." In the movie it was as if they weren't a part of the human world anymore but this sick world. The patients were very abandoned and alone to just lay there and die. It's like two completely different worlds. If you are on the verge of dying, why would they treat you? When this happens there nothing really much to do but to give you the little treatment you need to slow your death because there is nothing you can do to make things better.
Just like hospitals, nursing homes do the same thing. They take these older people with other older people and stick them in one place where they all feel the same depressed, sick, and old. They probably don't recieve much companies from others so they live their life to whatever they can. That's probably why most old people enjoy young fresh company. In stigma it said "the term stigma, then, will be used to refer to an attributr that is deeply discrediting, but should be seen that a language of relationships, not attributes, is really needed. An attributer stigmatizes opne type of possesor can confirm the usualness of another and therefore is neither creditable as a thing itself". It's kind of like you being judged by what you have like your disease etc. By that sickness you are premantenly put somewhere with your own kind. You are always reminded that yiou are a part of that "stigma".
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